Women and fertility: What if it’s been a 'Big Lie'? - Conceive Plus USA

Women and fertility: What if it’s been a 'Big Lie'?

We’ve all grown up with this same idea “First comes love, then comes marriage, then comes baby in a baby carriage.” But reality is that the society changes over time. For modern women, it’s a bit more like “First comes the education, then the graduate degrees and then having a good job and financial security” and only after all this come love, marriage and babies. But is this happy ending necessarily given??

As much as we would like to believe, we cannot control our biological timetable even with all the advances in reproductive science and technologies that we have.

Tanya Selvaratnam, the writer of the new book “The Big Lie: Motherhood, Feminism, and the Reality of the Biological Clock”, thought that she could do so and fulfill all her professional goal before trying for a baby.

But after 3 miscarriages, several IVF treatments and finally her divorce, she realized she has waited too long.

Tanya wrote this book, to share her story, her mistakes and remind us to think about our future fertility before it is too late.

“The Big Lie” is also a call to action for women. In the last few chapters, Selvaratnam includes a well-researched chapter entitled “Action Items for the Future,” so that women are better prepared and more aware of their options. She wants to remind us to think and become really aware about the possible future fertility problems before it is too late.

Sadly there are many stories like the one of Tanya. Doing our best to give you an advice on how to tackle fertility issues we have prepared several posts which you can look up together with your Conceive Plus fertility lubricant.

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Good luck and don’t hesitate to ask us if you have more questions!